Define Your Style

Some of my first memories as a little kid were watching my mom put on her MAC makeup and letting me have a small Lancome powder compact and applying it with the circular powder puff it came with. Pretty sure I was around 4 years old when my grandma took me to get my first manicure, so I have always loved all things beauty. Fashion, not so much. Being 5’1” and fully grown, you can imagine how small I was throughout my entire childhood. I literally was the size of an elf haha! With that being said, as I approached high school, it became increasingly more difficult to find clothes that fit me right and most importantly, that I felt comfortable in. As the HOLL-ISTER graphic tees were phasing out, I went through an awkward transition of dressing myself in middle & high school. I kind of just wore whatever I had that fit and sometimes I wouldn’t even match. I distinctly remember one day in 9th grade, rushing like a crazy person in the morning getting ready and I decided to wear a light gray A&F t-shirt with silver sequins on it, the A&F logo was in hot pink embroidery, and a gray ruffled cardigan. Like why…fashion does not come naturally to me and I have learned that that’s okay! In this new culture of fast fashion, I have tried and failed to keep up with many of the trends that have come our way. I am personally not a trend follower. I already am not great with picking out clothes so adding another layer of complexity trying to follow the trends makes me want to pull my hair out. Not all of us can be the fashionistas, I will gladly save that for people who are masterful with putting outfits together! But if you need help in Sephora, I’m ya girl.

I still want to look cute, but I just don’t have the energy or interest to put into shopping (I hate going to the mall and almost never do) for clothes. To solve this, I started making mental notes of what I like when I’m online shopping, and I put together this little checklist!

Tips to defining your style:

  • Pick a silhouette: find what clothing styles and shapes flatter you the most and stick with those! My go to silhouettes are shift dresses/t-shirt dresses, high waisted jeans/shorts, flowy boho tops, rompers, and jumpsuits.

  • Color scheme: there are going to be certain colors that look amazing on you and others that don’t and that’s just life. I am always in earth tones. I made it a point to start paying attention to what I particularly like about the clothes that I buy, so I can actively make an effort to define my style. Forever and always subconsciously picking out the same colors over and over again! I am consistently drawn to dark/forest/army green, burnt orange/sienna, white, blue, and light pink. And that’s pretty much it haha!

  • Find your “uniform”: a particular outfit that ALWAYS looks good on you! Find one for professional/work events and one for going out with your friends. You can have as many as you want for whatever occasion! These are the 2 that I have. We all know what happens when the clock is ticking, you’ve just ripped apart your closet, and everything looks ugly on you. Having that safety net of your uniform is fool proof and stress proof. When you get to those moments, instead of having a mini meltdown amongst your scattered hangers and clothes, just go to your uniform!

  • Understand that you do not have to be a trend follower. In college I felt a lot of pressure to always be buying new clothes (but I was poor so do you see the dilemma?) to keep up with trends. Looking back, I burned through a lot of money on clothes I didn’t wear the following year. Now, I buy pieces for longevity. I stick to simple designs that can be dressed up or down and that can be worn for several types of occasions.

  • Places I like to {mostly online} shop: Zara, Topshop, Revolve, Nordstrom, Asos, Abercrombie (the BEST jeans), Lulu’s, Madewell, American Eagle, Luca & Grae, H&M, Target, Poshmark. Poshmark is an app where you can buy/sell clothes, accessories, and shoes. Get it if you don’t have it!

  • Keep the outfit simple and dress it up with jewelry: the most simple of outfits can be spiced up with a pair of hoops, some layered necklaces, rings, and bracelets. BaubleBar, Kendra Scott, and Etsy are my favorite places to find jewelry. But, jewelry is my guilty pleasure so I am always looking for new pieces to add to my jewelry box no matter where I am.

  • LASTLY: I am 100000% not concerned with what’s “cool” and what’s “not”. I wear what I love and what I feel comfortable and confident in and thats that! When you feel great, it shows and it doesn’t matter where your clothes are from. You could be wearing the world’s most expensive outfit, but if you’re not confident or comfortable in it, you will be awkwardly smiling and looking like a baby giraffe taking its first steps. Being yourself is cool, don’t forget that!!! Be you, do you, FOR YOU.


kssg, gab

xx.