How to Find Positivity In a Time of Uncertainty

I have recently entered one of the most radical life-stage transitions to date.  I just graduated from college, and I thought it was going to be all rainbows and sunshine with the promise of a decent paying job ahead.  Little did I know, that my post grad experience would be quite the opposite. I have experienced immense sadness during this time and even days when I’m feeling great, there is still a piece of me that holds onto that sadness.  I miss my roommates, my friends, my apartment, my walks to class, late night pizza runs, friends popping by, bid day, functions, everything. I miss it all. It’s going to take some time for me to be able to look at photos of my best friends and I that capture those memories and not get a lump in the back of my throat.  I know they will be my friends forever, but not having everyone within a 5 minute radius is a huge adjustment. For any of you reading this that share those memories with me, know that I miss you more than anything. What I would give to have one more semester! It’s even hard to write this because now I’m having flashbacks of it all and I look upon my college years with the most full heart.  I put together some words of encouragement/things that have brought me joy and comfort during this time and I wanted to share it with you guys. For anyone who is adjusting to life post grad, living in a new city trying to find their way, or just needs some positivity, I hope you give this a read.

  1. It’s okay to be sad - some days I honestly can’t even listen to a song, flip through Instagram, or walk through a store without getting sappy and upset. It’s like going through a breakup and everything reminds you of that person or that time and then you find yourself getting teary eyed while looking at coffee mugs in Target “That was OUR coffee mug!!!” *cue tears* Everyday will present itself with a new set of challenges, so take them as they come.  My challenge today: it’s Sunday. I want Chick-Fil-A. (psa I wrote this on Sunday)

  2. Plan (and I mean actually plan dates) to visit your bffs - once life starts rolling, things get busy, and plans fall through the cracks.  For example, my roommates and I are really all trying to make it to Music Midtown this year in Atlanta.  The event is already planned which takes the pressure off of us to try and find fun/cool things to do, where to meet, etc.  Things like that make it an easy yes to have a reunion!

  3. TREAT YO SELF - if you are one of those people who feels guilty about doing nice things for yourself, I am here to tell you that you shouldn’t.  Go get those nails done, take that ride to Sephora (aka Candyland), go through that Chick-Fil-A drive thru, buy the shoes, use the “Buy With 1-Click” button on Amazon (I feel so rebellious when I do that, jokes on YOU Amazon I really DO need those reusable glass straws).  It doesn’t have to be Friday, you don’t need to have checked off everything on your to-do list. You deserve to treat yourself for the reason being: life is too short.

  4. Pick a new hobby to start or fall in love again with an old one - fun fact: I love to draw. I love art, the creative process, it’s my zen space.  I haven’t picked up a pencil and a sketchpad in so long and I didn’t realize how long it’s been until I really thought about it.  Sidenote: it’s been a couple of months, I took drawing classes all throughout college, but for anybody who draws or makes things in general, that’s a lot of time off.  Anyway, I’m not going to settle for “Yeah I used to really love that” because I STILL really love to draw, so I’m going to start drawing again. Simply because it brings me happiness.  

  5. Start a new podcast - when you’re getting ready, if there’s nothing on tv or you don’t have time to sit and read a book, start a podcast episode! I looovvveee Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday (literally every episode is amazing), How I Built This (there are so many episodes, a few of my favs were Dermalogica, Kendra Scott, and Larabar!), and Serial (one of these things is not like the others haha! I also love investigative journalism/crime story podcasts like this one).

  6. Get a pet - Yes...BOLD...allow me to explain.  My boyfriend and I had started planning to get a puppy back in the fall, so we could be ready to bring her home when I graduated in May. Fast forward to July, my boyfriend is out of the country and I have a lot of time on my hands that would normally be spent watching every episode of Scandal on my sofa.  Life really has a way of throwing a wrench into your plans. Now, I have a little french bulldog who gives me a reason to roll out of bed in the mornings, get outside more, and I find myself spoiling her way too much with new toys from PetSmart.  She loves carrots, ice cubes, cantaloupe, her unicorn stuffed animal (which she death rolls like a crocodile...), and makes us laugh SO hard.

I hope something in here made you smile and you feel better now than you did before you read this!  Stay positive, stay golden.

P.S. Don't think I didn't rewatch every episode of Scandal because I sure did. 

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